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Online Dating, internet dating, call it what you will..
Its's great that people are now using online dating without any of the hangups from only a few years ago.
In fact, you only have to look how many TV adverts there are for general dating sites on prime time, to see that millions of people now use internet dating to find a partner.
Even BT in their latest advert are using online dating to show off their broadband capabilities!
Reports suggests that in as little as three years, a new pill that heightens a woman's sexual desire and improves her satisfaction levels in the bedroom, could be on the market.
According to The Telegraph, the company's founder Adriaan Tuiten describes the recent results of a trial involving more than 200 women, which have not yet been published, as "very, very promising".
Emotional Brain was set up in 2001 to research innovative health care, with a focus on women's sexual health. Since then, studies into the causes of Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) have lead to the development of targeted drugs designed to meet women's needs.
However, concerns have already been raised about how a drug that can boost the female sex drive will be received by the public.
Gynaecologist Andrew Goldstein, who helped conduct the study, told The New York Times that: “You want your effects to be good but not too good.”
He recalled past research into the development of a drug to treat a decrease in sexual desire.
“There was a lot of discussion about the need to show that you’re not turning women into nymphomaniacs. There’s a bias against — a fear of creating the sexually aggressive woman.”
According to the NHS, sexual problems affect around 50% of women, and become more common as women get older. Forms of FSD can include loss of desire, loss of arousal, problems with orgasm and pain during sex.
Joanna Coke, psychosexual therapist, told HuffPost UK Lifestyle: "The positive benefit of this kind of drug is that it could be a quick fix, which is much quicker and cheaper than psychosexual therapy.
"However, if low sexual desire disorder is part of a relational issue within the couple, using 'female viagra' may mean issues are not addressed and resentment continues to grow."
She adds there is also a small danger that if the drug were used to privilege sexual desire over the right to refuse sex, this could potentially lead to coercive and abusive behaviour within the relationship.
For more information about sexual and relationship therapy, please visit COSRT.
Congratulations! You, the Renaissancesingle father, met a fabulous single mom. The coffee date -- with all that smiling and laughing at each other’s jokes -- was a supreme success. Then you went to a movie together and were turned on by the fact that you both like extra butter on your popcorn. Finally, you both took the giant risk of chewing food together over a dazzling new white tablecloth and she loved the way you took control of the wine list.
As you are two single parents who know a lot about how to make the most of your time, your date immediately accepted your invitation to “come visit” after dinner. You didn’t even have to come up with a reason, such as, “I have this great collection of African masks.” As a single parent you’ve learned the value of getting right to the point and, as such, you had no problem with simply being honest and asking her if she’d like to come in. She accepted your straight-forward invitation -- the ultimate turn-on for a woman is honesty -- and now you know that you’re going to have sex.
Just as the single-parent lifestyle is different from the regular singles lifestyle, so are the dos and don’ts of single-parent sex. Here is my list of recommendations.
Don’t: Assume she’s a desperate single mom.
Do: Assume she needs you to go slowly.
Women are better at certain things than men are, and turning off the “sex tap” is one of them. I’ve heard of women who have turned this tap off not for months, but for years. The last thing she wants is for you to come on like gangbusters and not consider that she might need to start slowly. Just because she agreed to have sex with you doesn’t mean she agreed to rush it.
You have everything to gain by being patient and letting her take the lead. You have everything to lose by showing her from the get-go that you’re not tuned into her body rhythm and that you don’t care about her feelings.
Don’t: Assume she wants to hear about your ex.
Do: Assume she wants to be the only woman in your mind.
Even though you both have ex's, the bedroom is no place to discuss past angst. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you will turn her on by mentioning your ex in a less-than-positive light. She only wants to know that, at that moment, in your bed, you only have one woman on your mind -- her! In fact, she wants to feel like she’s the first woman to ever be in your bed. Get it?
Don’t: Assume you need to be a great experimental lover.
Do: Assume that it’s back to basics.
Oh, aren’t you the fancy-schmancy lover boy? And so progressive too! You know all about the best vibrators on the market -- the ones that guarantee you’ll hit her G-spot -- and you’re totally up to speed on the newest warming gels that make winter lovemaking more comfortable. OK, I give you credit: Toys can be a great addition to your sex menu for many reasons, including the fact that sometimes it’s just fine for a vibrator to give you an extra hand.
Online dating is not for the faint-hearted (Picture: File)
It’s peak season in the world of internet dating, as those who spent the festive season weeping into tins of Quality Street go online in search of love. If you’re one of the thousands of lonely hearts looking for that special someone in 2013, perhaps you would like to make use of our handy guide to creating the perfect online dating profile…
10. Think before you type
What’s in a name? Plenty, as it turns out. You can have all the witty profiles and hot pictures you like, but if your username is ‘WealthyBigPenis’, ‘BadassBrenda’ or ‘IWontMurderYou’, you may find your inbox unnervingly vacant. Give it some thought – on most sites, you can’t rectify username mistakes later on…
9. Be honest
If you’re grumpy, needy or a Secret Internet Fatty, make this clear. You don’t need to be self-deprecating to the point of character assassination and it probably isn’t wise to go into too much detail (i.e. leave out yeast infections and restraining orders). But on the whole, people appreciate honesty, because surprises just aren’t that romantic in the context of internet dating.
8. Avoid clichés and platitudes
If dating websites are to be believed, absolutely everyone on Earth ‘seizes the day’ and is looking for their ‘partner in crime’. On the internet, people seem to feel the need to say things like, ’I love to have a good time,’ as if this sets them apart from the rest of humanity. It doesn’t. Everyone loves to have a good time. That’s why they call it a good time.
Oh, and we all know you like cats. And travelling.
7. Be funny
Goes without saying. But not too funny. Remember that what sounds like a hilarious play on words in the pub with your mates can look like an abominable racial slur when typed out online.
6. Put the actual height that you are
Example: Boy knows he’s really 5’7″, but says he’s 5’8″ online. Girl knows she’s actually 5′ 9″ but says she’s 5’8″. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl are both annoyed about each other’s real heights, due to societal criterion impressed upon them about the heinousness of shorter men with taller women. Disaster.
5. Be direct
There’s usually a ‘What I’m looking for’ section on these sites and if you can be as straight as possible in this bit, your internet dating experience will be a lot smoother than others have been in the past. Perhaps you’re searching for your life partner and want to settle down straight away. If this is the case, say so in your profile. Alternatively, you could be an emotionally vacuous sexual compulsive who’s leaving the country in a few months and just wants a semi-regular shag in the meantime. In which case, make this clear to prospective daters.
4. But not too direct
The ‘About me’ section on one internet dating profile genuinely just says: ‘RESTAURANT AND AS SOON AS POSSIBLE’. Don’t do this.
3. Don’t reveal how much money you have
Sample conversation between internet dating profile browsers:
‘Ooh, he’s nice… oh, but he’s put his salary bracket down. I hate that. So arrogant.’
‘This guy looks good… oh, but again, he’s put his salary. Ugh.’
‘Oh, look – another one who’s put how much he earns. How annoying. Ooh, but he’s in the “£75,000 and above” category. Let’s send him a message.’
No good can come of this.
2. Keep it clean
Avoid writing about how in touch with your vagina you are, or how ‘her pleasure is your pleasure’ in your profile. Keep innuendo to a minimum and avoid the phrase ‘sweet-ass behind’. Let’s just assume human internet daters all like sex unless told otherwise, shall we?
1. Smile for the camera
At its core, the internet is a shallow, soulless place and it’s going to want to see your picture. Make sure your photo is a recent and honest visual representation (absolutely no Photoshop allowed), but don’t play down your good looks because you’re worried your date will be disappointed in real life – no one ever arranged to meet someone they found unattractive online in the hope that they might look better in person.
According to research done by me on the internet just now, it is also necessary to point out that online dating profile pictures should always include your face and never your genitalia.
Remember to HAVE FUN! You aren't solving world peace. You are going to meet someone that is quite possibly cute and charming and someone you like, so just relax and let it happen. And, worst-case scenario, you can always write a fun blog about all of your dating adventures. Worse things have happened! http://www.datingforsingleparentsuk.com
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